克服困難
「挑戰困難,突破瓶頸,創造價值」。困難沒什麼了不起,就是面對它、挑戰它。如果困難有多面,就要先選擇值得我們挑戰的那一面,然後去創造價值,從瓶頸著手,尋求突破。沒有困難,人生就沒有意義了,也就是說,人生一定有困難,只要我們有面對困難的勇氣,不要逃避,沒有解決不了的。克服困難,有時要找助力,有時要靠自己,有時需要時間。五年才能解決的事情,就不要把目標訂成三年;如果一天能夠做到,卻不願用一天去克服,第二天可能就沒機會了。所以,我們要先充分了解事情、掌握重點、面對時機。
同時,克服困難也是需要能力的。能力是不斷的學習、不斷的歷練,是要花時間的。不要怕時間長,只求解決困難即可。內心要存樂觀正面看待困難的心境,尋求家人、朋友的鼓勵,讓自己更有勇氣,只要突破一次困難,下一次就不是困難了。「一帆風順」,通常只屬於極少數幸運者的,大多數人都先會經歷挫折的。儘管挫折普遍存在於人們的生活中,但有些人卻可在經歷挫折之後,獲得成功,有些人則在挫折的打擊下,一蹶不振。因此,只有能夠以積極樂觀的心態,對待生活中的挫折的人,才能把挫折,看成人生的平常事,並在挫折的錘鍊下,變得更加有自信和堅強。
每次遇到困難與挫折時,要告訴自己,這些都是暫時的。每個困難與挫折,都是禮物,我們就自然不會被困難給困住。還有,在遇到挫折時,我們不要垂頭喪氣,或怨天尤人,而是要冷靜地認識與分析困難。因為有了正確的評估,我們才能找出最適合的解決方法。此外,我們也要學會幽默,接受自己的缺點,自我解嘲。每個人都有可能走錯路,如能懂得變通,不要鑽牛角尖,適時轉換思路,才是王道。要知道人生不一定要走直路。兩點之間,也並不是直線是最短的,反而走彎路,卻可曲徑通幽。
面對挫折,我們要衝著目標,勇往直前,堅持下去。有志者事竟成! 鍥而不捨,金石可鏤。再者,獲得家人與朋友的支持,更可以讓我們變得更堅強和聰明。然後,我們要培養自己的韌性,要有「從逆境或變化中,恢復或輕鬆適應的能力」。此種能力,是處理困難情況的技能,不可或缺的。
最後,要對自己有信心。我們每個人,生來就都擁有獨一無二的天賦,這是世界上其他人所沒有的。通過學習、訓練和實踐,可以培養我們的能耐與自信。沒有什麼比在我們喜歡做的事情上,做得更好、感覺更棒的了。做真實的自己,才能誠實地幫我們度過困難的時刻。善待自己,也善待別人,當我們內心快樂時,我們會有更好的創造性思考,也就會成為更好的問題解決者。為了創造成功的結果,我們要有意識地在內心裡,想像那些有挑戰的事情,並想像自己已經獲得成功,信念創造實相,相信天下一定無難事的。
When learning how to overcome challenges, we have to know that it is not the challenge itself, but our perception and interpretation of it that gives us negative thoughts and feelings. A great way to change our perspective is to imagine it from another direction. When we ask questions, our mind is forced to give us an answer. But there are good questions and bad questions. We should reframe bad questions into good questions and then, we can get good answers. Next, we need to focus on the areas of our life that are going well. If there’s one area of our life that’s challenging at the moment, we try to look at the other areas that are going well. Thinking negatively is the easiest possible thing for us to do. To reduce this natural tendency, we need to focus consciously on what is positive and good.
Besides, we may not be responsible for the challenge that is happening in our life. It can be something that is completely outside of our control. But now that we are in this situation, we are 100% responsible for the action we take. This is a good thing because it gives us choices and options, and we’ll feel more in control. Taking responsibility is the key in discovering how to overcome challenges. Further, humans are not designed to overcome challenges alone. Other people can give us a different perspective. They can reframe things for us, and help us with the practical steps to resolve them. So we should surround ourselves with positive people as much as we can.
When life is difficult, it is very easy to focus on things that are not working. But, there is almost always an answer and a solution. Often, there is something far better waiting for us on the other side of this challenge! It may seem very unbelievable at the moment, but our imagination will really help our mind focus on the solution. When we focus on what we want in our mind, unbelievably, many situations, events, and opportunities could help bring that into our life. Therefore, we have to visualize ourselves overcoming the challenge and notice how that feels. When we get a sense of that new feeling, it becomes a part of our vision.
Moreover, with the right decisions, good planning, and some consistency, we can minimize the chances of the challenges happening. The good decisions we make are the ones that will make us happy and fulfilled and that we will enjoy what we do in our lives. Then, making good plans are great to overcome the obstacles placed in front of us during our lifetime. Successful people look at a problem and see the opportunity. So let’s go for it right now!