有智慧的人 (Being a Wise Person)
“If you can learn to love yourself and all the flaws, you can love other people so much better. And that makes you so happy”--Kristen Chenowith (an American actress and singer). Self-love is one of the best things we can do for ourselves. Actually, loving ourselves provides us with self-confidence, self-worth, and more positive. If we can learn to love ourselves, we will feel happier and learn to take better care of ourselves. When we begin to love ourselves and continue to love ourselves more and more each day, things will be a little bit better in every possible way. We need to learn how to accept not only the emotions that create love, joy, and happiness, but also the ones that cause fear, insecurity, and anger in our lives. However, we need to learn how to acknowledge and accept the pain with the love because it’s normal that we have flaws and faults. We can always choose love then. Love is something we choose, the same way we choose anger, hate, or sadness. We have the power to forgive someone who has hurt us in the past, and we can learn to finally heal from something when we can forgive.
Learning to love ourselves leads to better self-care. No one is perfect and sometimes, bad things happen. We often do too much for other people because we want to please everyone, and then we can forget to look after ourselves and then we become overwhelmed.
Today is the day we can love ourselves completely with no expectations. Making the choice right now to choose our own love is the most powerful thing in our lives.
If we want to know how others treat us, the best starting place is to look at how we treat others. Relationships function like a mirror. Here are 5 important principles for us to remember how we treat others:
1. Instead of judging people by their past, we stand by them and help them build their future. Everyone has a past. Some are a source of pride, and others are best left behind. But whatever their past, people do change and grow, so instead of judging, we need to stand by them and support them as they move toward their future.
2. We treat everyone with kindness--not because they are kindhearted, but because we are. One of the greatest gifts we can give others is kindness. If someone is in need, we should lend a helping hand. True kindness lies in the act of giving without the expectation of getting something in return.
3. We don’t meet people by accident. Every person we meet will have a role in our life. Some will help us grow, some will hurt us, and some will inspire us to do better. Paths cross for a reason, and we should treat people with significance.
4. The best teachers are those who don’t tell us how to get there but show the way. There is no better joy than helping people see a vision for themselves, seeing them go to levels higher than they ever would have imagined on their own. We offer people support and motivation as they find their own ways. All we have to do is believe in them.
5. We can’t look down upon someone unless we are helping them up. It’s easy to look down upon someone who isn’t as successful, accomplished or well-educated as we are. Nevertheless, we should treat others with dignity.
Business is complicated, life is complex, and leadership is difficult. We need to treat all people--including ourselves--with love and compassion, and then, we wouldn’t go wrong. If we treat people the way just we want to be treated, life will instantly get better.